Sexual Humor

I make a lot of references to sex in my posts. This is not because I’m obsessed with sex or because I have run out of other things to talk about, but because sex lends itself easily to humor. That is, sex is funny to most people in a way that the Harvard Lampoon is not.

This is related to social skills because I’ve noticed that a lot of socially awkward people are most awkward around the topic of sex. I’ll say penis and get an audible wince. Their eyes will kind of slide downward, and then they drop some cutlery for good measure.

So what I’m suggesting is that people become more comfortable with sex as a conversation topic, if not as a physical act. The point isn’t to be bawdy or lewd. But familiarizing yourself with enough terminology to lie during a game of ten fingers is a skill well worth acquiring. At the very least, learn to guffaw with the best of them. Read the rest of this entry »

A Modern Day Guide to Coquetry

You want to give her your particular attention without fawning, to pique his interest while presenting a touch of resistance, to treat her differently. So you target your words and you smile deliberately. When she turns to look at you, you let your eyes linger. In the world of flirtation, propriety is secondary to provocation, and conversational content is superseded by teasing and touching.

Teasing is contextual. For example, when your romantic interest exclaims that he hasn’t seen you in forever, explain that you’ve been avoiding him. When she groans for the fifth time about how cold it is, remind her that if she complains a couple more times maybe it will get warmer. When he starts talking about his career as a high-powered corporate lawyer, ask him what he wants to be when he grows up. These remarks need not make sense. Read the rest of this entry »